1. You get up early to meditate when you really need sleep
2. You squeeze in one more task in the few minutes space you had before leaving the house
3. You tell yourself you’re not very good at something because you always get it wrong
4. You hold onto something someone said or eluded to that is hurtful to you when it doesn’t serve you
5. You consistently put other people’s needs before your own when you know there are times this doesn’t have to be the case but it’s become habit
6. You have a version of you you’d like to be and constantly berate yourself for not being it
7. You say yes to a number of commitments knowing you’ll need to cancel at least one when the time comes
8. You have a story of what you were or are like at work/school/with peer groups that isn’t serving you
9. You say yes to a commitment when you really need to be at home
10. You consistently find reasons to stay online when there isn’t a legitimate one
11. You crave quiet and still but don’t (can’t?) make room for it
12. You tell yourself that when things go wrong it is your fault
13. You have wanted to start something for a long time but are always putting it off and cross at yourself for doing so
14. You’re always somehow busy and rushed, even on quieter days
15. You always, always, push through tiredness or illness and no longer recognise ‘normal’
16. You’re stressed about a future event where you don’t know the outcome
17. You force yourself to be somewhere when you know you don’t feel up to it
18. You’ve been saying for a while ‘I need to slow down’ ‘I don’t actually like being so busy’ and ‘I can’t wait for Christmas / Summer again / in a few years time when…’
19. You feel like other people are a lot nicer than you
20. You’re holding a negative story about yourself based on one incident and bringing that into everything you think and do
21.You feel overwhelmed and haven’t asked for help
It’s OK to ask for help you know? It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It means you’ve recognised that things can’t stay the way they are and that you’re willing to look at how the part you play in it can be different.
Which feels liberating and freeing already.
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